I talk a lot about confidence. I believe in it and I believe that it is the backbone of any strong man. My goal at The Noblest Rogue is to help you feel better about yourself and to raise you up. This, in turn, will see you grow as a man and the better you feel about yourself, the more confident you will become. The only downside to confidence is that when you have it, other people can perceive this personal positivity as arrogance. Which is a big no-no in my books! There is nothing more sickening than an arrogant man. Confidence and arrogance are polar opposites and it is important that we men understand the difference.
Confidence is internal. It is an unwavering belief in yourself and your ability. You know that you’re good enough, smart enough and valuable. It is this value that you bring to the world around you and the people you interact with. Confidence is a secure sense in oneself and an understanding that you don’t have to prove anything to anyone.
This doesn’t mean that you have to – or will be – confident in all areas of your life. You may not be a good dancer or a super poker player but this doesn’t make you an unconfident man and simply means that there are aspects of your life which you are not great at. We all have them. To confident men, accepting theses shortcomings is a step towards personal growth. Embracing constructive criticism is part and parcel as it helps you become stronger. Take the criticism, analyse it and then apply what you have learnt from it so that you can become the best version of yourself, you can possibly be.
An arrogant man, on the other hand, is constantly trying to convince the world of their social worth and status. They do this by gloating and putting those around them down so that they, in turn, lift themselves up. An arrogant man is in fact, very insecure and therefore projects that which he wishes he was, by talking. A lot. An arrogant man has a lot to say about himself. Mostly all of the time.
A confident man doesn’t need to tell the world how great he his and he certainly isn’t going to tear those around him down. Rather, a confident man will lift those around him up and inspires them by his actions.
We all know of arrogant jerks, either in our families, work environments or social circles and whilst at times it may be easier to avoid them, there are occasions when you have no choice but to endure them. The beauty is that you now know the reason for their arrogance and so can take it from whence it comes. The key is not to allow their arrogance to affect your confidence. Remember that you are awesome and they are simply trying to cover up the fact that they are deeply insecure.
Somewhere along the way, we as men have lost our confidence which, in my opinion, is unacceptable. The world needs confident men who believe in themselves and their moral fibres. You deserve to be happy and you deserve to be confident! Never let anybody tell you otherwise or steal your joy. Believe that you are amazing and tell yourself this every morning. Nurture your confidence.
You stay classy,